Are you ready to love again?

This was posted by my friend, Ice and was written and originally posted by her friend, Raya (i don't actually know her...hehe) but i enjoyed reading it and learned some lessons pa (i think!). So here, i'm posting it, too. :) To all my gurl friends out there, enjoy reading! Wakey-wakey! :)


May 31, '08 5:11 PM

I was supposed to write something about a friend (having inspired by her not so simple lovelife) kaso I couldn't get my thoughts together and so I ended up writing this instead. =)

I really can’t help but ask. I thought pag in love ka, it’s all sunshine and rainbows and bunnies and cotton candies. Tamang nagsusumigaw na pink dapat ang mundo mo. Well, siguro nga…it’s a given fact na when you fall in…pwede ka mag-fall out at walang nag-fall na di nabukulan. No matter how careful you are in selecting to whom you can entrust your heart with (i thought i wanted to puke when i said that!), inevitable na ata ang masaktan. Wish ko lang may bakuna to immunize me from all these. Pero wala eh….akala mo lang meron pero wala! wala! wala!

I do not usually take things at face value but when it comes to men…I have to take what they do at face value. Madali lang naman silang basahin eh. In fairness, they are pretty straightforward naman. I find them fun to be with. Just don’t think too much if you don’t want to spoil the moment and rot the friendship. In other words, never poison your mind with malice. Maloloka ka lang for nothing!

If they do nice things to you…it only meant nice lang talaga sila. We should not discourage anyone from being nice. We are all praying for a better world di ba? I thank you.

If they call you very often…it only meant kailangan lang talaga nila ng kausap. Iniisip mo bakit ikaw? Aba eh ma-touched ka at meron pang mga tao na kumakausap sa iyo! Why do we need to interpret things differently based on the gender of the caller? Just treat it the same way you would look at it if it were a female friend who called you.

If they sms you very often…maybe mayroon shang 700 free sms a month na sayang naman kung di nya gagamitin.

If they email you a lot…aba eh…petiks yan! Isumbong mo sa boss nya! =)

If they shower you with attention...it only meant na they have so much attention to give. Yun lang yun. It’s free so just take it! Take it! =)

If they ask you out…it could mean that they want to do some catching up with you. Friends do that. I value friends who take effort to meet up with me kase iba talaga yung nakikita mo sila…their reaction as you talk or their expressions and emotions as they speak. =)

If they give you super special treatment….it only meant na special ka and you deserve to be treated that way by everyone.

So how do I know if they want to be more than just my friend?...

...Well, I expect them to say so! If they cannot express themselves with simple words on simple things like this, then how can you expect them to assume the lead in your relationship? Unless, mind-reader ka o psychic na malakas ang pakiramdam at kayang magbasa ng isp ng iba. But why waste your time? Kung high school ka siguro…pwede. Pero siguro at my age (I’m not saying what!), there are a lot better things to make use of my time and energy with…like….wakeboarding! hehehe

I know…I know…he is soooo nice and perfect for you and its so difficult to resist his charm kaya nade-develop ka na! (don't worry its normal...i think) Pwes, paglabanan mo. Always guard and be in control of your emotions. I am giving men the benefit of the doubt that this is unintentional (but maybe subconscious) to single out a specific girl, treat her like a princess, shower her with attention, make her fall for this he-made-me-feel-good-about-being-a-girl trap and later on after the feelings have been nurtured, drop the I-can-only-love-you-as-a-friend bomb (is this a skill they learned in school because they could be so damn good at it!).

Aaaaawww. That hurts…even when you don’t have the right to be one.

I have heard a lot of people say that it can never be platonic between a man and a woman. Bakit hindi??? I really beg to disagree. I have a handful of close male friends and it worked pretty well for us. Sometimes, you just have to put your creative imagination to rest. You jut have to take things as they are (or maybe...hindi lang talaga ako normal). I know that you maybe thinking right now na madali for me to say it kase I have never been in that situation yet. Actually...I have (more than once). =)

This is what I usually do. Isipin mo na salot ang mga kumag (ay...bitter!)...ah...este...I draw a line and (take note this is very important) never cross it! Always stay within your boundary (except kung super liwanang na yung light at the end of the tunnel at nasiguro mong freedom nga yung nasa other side...hehe). Trust me, I have my own story to tell but this blog is not about me.

Sooooo… to my friends who have unreciprocatedly loved and lost…wipe those tears away (move on without losing the lesson). I know that you are ready to love again. =)